How to deal with difficult people

(Note: I have written this blog post a couple years ago, sometime before the pandemic (isn’t it funny that now we define time by referencing the pandemic) and left it on drafts, and totally forgotten about it. Very recently, I was going over the draft posts and saw this article. I think everybody has to deal with difficult people in different parts of their lives, and maybe this post might help some of you.)

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As a person who always loved reading novels, I have recently (last five years, I would say) started to enjoy reading non-fiction books, especially self-improvement books. However, after reading one good personal growth book that makes you learn about yourself and helps you feel good, you want to read more books that can do the same. It can easily become a habit. More importantly, when you reread the book that made you a better version of yourself a couple of years later, you realize that you already forgot most of it and you start to make the same mistakes again. Therefore, I try to spend some time reading good books on how to feel better, how to appreciate things and so on.

But sometimes,

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The Oily Marks and Life’s Surprises

I made this when I was in high school. It was eleventh or the twelfth grade and I was taking Advanced Studio Art class from a very good teacher I loved. Every class, we had the abundance of materials, pencils, paints, inks, papers, cardboards, brushes, anything you could think of. Everyone was very talented and worked on their projects while listening to the songs from our teacher’s playlist. Everyone was at their own pace and own imagination. I was working with a blue coloring pencil only, on a gray sketch paper.

I don’t know how much you can see from this picture but it is actually a close-up of jeans. I loved playing with the shadows and the folding areas with one color only. I worked on this painting/drawing for weeks with patience and joy.

After weeks of hard work I came to the class and took out the painting from the cupboards we all used to store our work when we leave the class. There were big oily drops

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Such a beautiful sentence…

Let’s be honest. We don’t remember all the books we read. We forget some key characters and even the plot line, while we can remember a small random detail that may not have a major role in the story. Or sometimes we remember just one quote and a few characters that somehow influence us.

Crumble (Lay Me Down, Justin Timberlake) by Sheila Callaghan is one of the plays that left a nice little quote to me:

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A Link to Happiness: Self Respect

Self respect is the key to make right decisions. We need to respect our own thoughts, feelings, confusions, wishes and dreams. No one can really know what our dream is or what we are actually thinking and feeling.

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Isn’t it difficult to express the real ‘me’? Isn’t it sad that we often choose what is offered and do not share our actual abilities?

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Kağıttan kar tanesi yapabildik mi?? – Video

Hala çocuklar öyle midir bilmeyiz ama biz çocukken çokça el işi faaliyetleri yapardık, hem okulda hem evde. En sevdiğimiz, kolay ve zevklilerinden biri de kağıdı katlayıp şekiller kesmek ve sonunda da açıp ortaya çıkan simetrik sürpriz deseni görmekti. Hatta bir ara bu aktiviteye o kadar sarmıştık ki evde bir süre her yerden minik kağıt parçaları çıkar olmuştu!

Bir video yaptık, madem yılbaşı teması hakim, henüz kar yağmasa da kağıttan kar taneleri ile kışı şenlendirelim! Hem de çocukluk aktivitelerini yeniden yapmanın verdiği mutluluk bir başkadır, bunu da deneyelim.

Videoda kağıttan kar tanesi yapmak için yarıştık, kısa zamanda en iyisini hangimiz yapacak diye süre de tuttuk. Gerçekten kar tanesine benzedi mi, iyi yapabildik mi, kim daha iyi yaptı, video sonunda o desenler ne hali aldı… İzlemek isterseniz aşağıda bulabilirsiniz!

Sevgiler,

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Ağaçlardan Yılbaşı Ağacı – Video

Yeni bir video için yeni bir konu ararken yılbaşı temalı bir video olsun dedik.

Hazırlık aşamasında ilk yaptığımız şey tabii ki ışıklandırma almak oldu. Zaten en sevdiğimiz dekoratif eşyalardan biridir bu küçük ışıklar. Üniversitedeyken de yurttaki çoğu odanın duvarlarını süslerlerdi, zaman yılbaşı olmasa da. Bizim de vardı ve bazen gece karanlığında ışıkları seyrederdik. Çok keyifli oluyor, tevsiye ederiz.

Yılbaşı ağacı alıp bunu süslemek de oldukça eğlencelidir ama bu yıl başka bir şey yapalım istedik. Zaten çok yer değiştirme sonucu süs, ağaç gibi şeyler her an halihazırda bulunmuyor bizde. Bu durumda bize düşen ayak uydurmak ve kendi süsümüzü yapmak!

Kitaplardan yılbaşı ağacı yapma fikri de buradan çıktı, evde en kolay (ve en çok!) bulunan şey kitap olduğu için aslında bizim için harika bir seneçekti, birçok kişi için de böyledir tahminimiz.

İhtiyacınız olan malzemeler:

  1. Bolca çokça fazlaca kitap!
  2. Yılbaşı ışıkları (işin sihri)
  3. Varsa kozalak, ya da yılbaşı ağacının üstüne yerleştirilen yıldız süsü gibi süsler de güzel olur.

Aslında çok olay gibi gözükebilir ama düzgün ve güzel görünümlü bir ağaç tasarlamak istiyorsanız, ve bunu ilk defa yapıyorsanız, biraz uğraştırabilir. Piramit gibi üst üste kitap koymakla bitmiyormuş iş, denge sağlamak gerekiyormuş.

Bir püf noktası da kitapların sırtını dışarıya dönük şekilde koymak. Ağır ve boyca büyük kitapları en alta temel sağlaması olarak yerleştirmek ve küçük kitapları sona saklamak akıllıca olacaktır. Tabii ki istediğiniz ağaç büyüdükçe kullandığınız kitap sayısı da artacaktır!

En sonunda ışıkları sarıp, en üste süsünüzü yerleştirip, bir de karanlıkta ışıklı süsünüzü yakınca tadaaa! İşte işin en zevkli yanı o!

Videomuzu izlemek istiyorsanız aşağıya bırakıyoruz.

 

 

 

How We Met Khaled Hosseini – New Youtube Video

Check out our latest video on Youtube! We talked about how we met the famous author Khaled Hosseini. We were at Skidmore College doing our Citizenship Project for our Honors Forum Minor. In Saratoga Springs we led a book discussion at a nursing home and it was a wonderful experience!

We have the Turkish version of this video too. You can find it in our Youtube Channel!

An Autodidact Freedom Searcher – Gorky

For the last couple of years, whenever I gazed over the shelves of the bookcase, this book attracted my attention. Finally I had a chance to read it: True Stories by Maxim Gorky.

Some books are fun and easy to read, while some give a different kind of literary satisfaction. Gorky’s stories are not difficult to read, but they also have that sweet taste of literature. It has been a long time since I read such a literary work and it felt good.

I just finished the book and I wanted to write a post about it. Characters are described quite well, I felt like I already know these people who lived more than a century ago. Some of the stories tell folk stories, some have epic sounds, but all have realistic approach to character descriptions, and they all tell the search for freedom. Many parts have long philosophical parts about freedom, meaning of life, and change in life styles as people move towards cities.

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In this image, two grass-heads accompany the book, True Stories by Maxim Gorky.

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Tears of Love

The title sounds lame but wait until you read this post.

A few weeks ago we went to a florist.  The owner has turned his large backyard of his little house to a plant storage, almost a plant-house and now he cultivates seedlings of citrus, jasmine and bougainvilleas. He also sells pots of flowers, mostly to be planted, and a very small collection of succulents. Oyku and I love succulents and when we went near them we saw a different looking plant. We had seen that plant for the first time in our lives and before we could ask about it the owner told the name: ‘Tears of Love’. It seemed as if this was one of his favorites. He explained that the plant doesn’t have flowers, but when a little bud drops on the soil, a new plant grows from there.


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Design is in love with emotions

Design is a good friend of technology. Computer brings them together and we see their collaboration in various forms, like web-design, architecture, fashion, visuals… However, design is in love with emotions; therefore, trends rise from the human effects like passion, love, envy, inadequacy and longing.

That is why there are two ends of development for design. As we move to a modern and space-like design trends with the help of technology, we also move towards the ethnic and rarest bits of culture that make us feel unique and safe, in a way. We want oriental elements with modern details.

These photos are from Elmaci Pazari in Gaziantep, Turkey. Since we were born in there, we always found the ethnic elements as the typical details of life. However, as we traveled outside this city for our education, first to Istanbul then to the US, we started to grasp the meaning of culture, and the depth of past. We realized that Continue reading